haha, Don't want to Bash Burn's that bad, its all a good/positive idea and all but I don't know, might work/help with others, but just not for me apparently.
AudioFreak, first off HELLO in friendly and compassionate tone.
Allright, I am going to give some serious and well intended advice, some will be tough love.
You are indicating high degree of awareness and empathy by the self observations that you have shared....this is important.
Language
First off your mode of communication with continued ***** adjectives indicates high level of 'psychic tension'.
Learn to alter your vocabulary, 'use your words', search for and utilise much better descriptors to convey your feelings...English is king of languages in terms of depth and nuances of meanings.
This will shift your mindset away from fundamentally negative and habitually used insert words.....ever noticed how boring the conversation of speakers who cannot start, continue and complete a single sentence without addition of at least three 'f' utterances actually is.
By using higher level and range of vocabulary you will in short order positively alter your thinking processes, and this will help to elevate your general mood, and consequently your self energy and self esteem.....for now, and for the exercise totally banish impolite words, terms and expressions in your conversations....try it diligently and note the improvement in your outlook .
This 'f word' characteristic behaviour can be an indicator of below average intelligence, but in your case I sense that this is not so.
IIRC you mentioned going to college.
You must have demonstrated some degree of smarts to have qualified entry to tertiary education.
If you have squandered that, consider that this can be temporary.....the world is full of mature age students who are motivated to learn and have real world life experience as distinct advantage compared to those straight from schooling.
Peer group
This is a biggie to a point.
If your peer group is that of drug users, drop outs, losers, and 'victims' with attitude problems that's where you are going to stay...move on and relish more intelligent companionship....positive outlook company is contagious, just as negative outlook company is.
If relatives/family/associates are consistently negative, firmly steer conversations to positive subject matter.
Substances
There is no such thing as addiction, but habits can be overwhelmingly powerful.
Continued and regular use of 'substances' diminish your self resolve....that's why they are banned, alcohol and tobacco excepted for now.
Historically A & T have been accepted, but in future consumers will be registered and more highly taxed for multiple reasons including public health care costs.
Getting off substances and staying off substances is a two edged sword....whilst under the influence you will not have the self determination to quit, but once you have quit and relearned to enjoy being straight the the desire will diminish.
Recall when you were very young...everything was new, interesting and joyful.
That state of mind can be resurrected and is ultimately self sustaining.
As was stated to me once, 'the best drug is no drugs' and I agree.
Once over the hurdle and back into the real and positive world, you can be in the situation to safely go back and retry the substances that got you down and changed your world.
The result is that it might be fun for the day/night/weekend, but having relearned the difference, the self will likely reject this state of mind and prefer being straight.
Diet
Range of food intake is mission critical.
Typical fast food is long term poisonous due to lack of essential micro nutrients and excess of deleterious additives.
Simple wholesome home cooked meats and three veggies plus salads are cheaper and much better than prepared foods.
Avidly avoid excess quantities of sugars.
Minerals including trace minerals are exceptionally important....multivitamin/mineral supplements can be very beneficial.
Oils and fats are required in the diet to ensure uptake of fats soluble nutrients.
Gut flora is also mission critical.....medications/substances/diet may alter/destroy beneficial gut flora and these flora may not recover without augmentation.....you might need to eat some dirt, seriously.
Good water is vital....town/tap water is toxic imo.
Thoughts
Over thinking sets up neuronal feedback loops that become 'locked on'.
Banish any habitual/reflex negative thoughts and allow your mind to 'rest' and reroute.
Divert your attention/interest to new subjects and concepts....Google and research any topic and associated links that pique your interest...this will broaden your knowledge base and quench loops.
Exercise
Get outside and explore your suburb, be it on foot or cycling, even if only to go to the local shops.
Raising your heart rate and physical output has obvious benefits.
Further advantages are seeing and experiencing a different environment.
All of the above will aid in kicking sticky componds out of your 'grey matter'.
I could add a whole lot more, but that is ample to consider for now.
You have a future, be it good or bad, the choice is yours.
Sincerely, Dan.
Allright, I am going to give some serious and well intended advice, some will be tough love.
You are indicating high degree of awareness and empathy by the self observations that you have shared....this is important.
Language
First off your mode of communication with continued ***** adjectives indicates high level of 'psychic tension'.
Learn to alter your vocabulary, 'use your words', search for and utilise much better descriptors to convey your feelings...English is king of languages in terms of depth and nuances of meanings.
This will shift your mindset away from fundamentally negative and habitually used insert words.....ever noticed how boring the conversation of speakers who cannot start, continue and complete a single sentence without addition of at least three 'f' utterances actually is.
By using higher level and range of vocabulary you will in short order positively alter your thinking processes, and this will help to elevate your general mood, and consequently your self energy and self esteem.....for now, and for the exercise totally banish impolite words, terms and expressions in your conversations....try it diligently and note the improvement in your outlook .
This 'f word' characteristic behaviour can be an indicator of below average intelligence, but in your case I sense that this is not so.
IIRC you mentioned going to college.
You must have demonstrated some degree of smarts to have qualified entry to tertiary education.
If you have squandered that, consider that this can be temporary.....the world is full of mature age students who are motivated to learn and have real world life experience as distinct advantage compared to those straight from schooling.
Peer group
This is a biggie to a point.
If your peer group is that of drug users, drop outs, losers, and 'victims' with attitude problems that's where you are going to stay...move on and relish more intelligent companionship....positive outlook company is contagious, just as negative outlook company is.
If relatives/family/associates are consistently negative, firmly steer conversations to positive subject matter.
Substances
There is no such thing as addiction, but habits can be overwhelmingly powerful.
Continued and regular use of 'substances' diminish your self resolve....that's why they are banned, alcohol and tobacco excepted for now.
Historically A & T have been accepted, but in future consumers will be registered and more highly taxed for multiple reasons including public health care costs.
Getting off substances and staying off substances is a two edged sword....whilst under the influence you will not have the self determination to quit, but once you have quit and relearned to enjoy being straight the the desire will diminish.
Recall when you were very young...everything was new, interesting and joyful.
That state of mind can be resurrected and is ultimately self sustaining.
As was stated to me once, 'the best drug is no drugs' and I agree.
Once over the hurdle and back into the real and positive world, you can be in the situation to safely go back and retry the substances that got you down and changed your world.
The result is that it might be fun for the day/night/weekend, but having relearned the difference, the self will likely reject this state of mind and prefer being straight.
Diet
Range of food intake is mission critical.
Typical fast food is long term poisonous due to lack of essential micro nutrients and excess of deleterious additives.
Simple wholesome home cooked meats and three veggies plus salads are cheaper and much better than prepared foods.
Avidly avoid excess quantities of sugars.
Minerals including trace minerals are exceptionally important....multivitamin/mineral supplements can be very beneficial.
Oils and fats are required in the diet to ensure uptake of fats soluble nutrients.
Gut flora is also mission critical.....medications/substances/diet may alter/destroy beneficial gut flora and these flora may not recover without augmentation.....you might need to eat some dirt, seriously.
Good water is vital....town/tap water is toxic imo.
Thoughts
Over thinking sets up neuronal feedback loops that become 'locked on'.
Banish any habitual/reflex negative thoughts and allow your mind to 'rest' and reroute.
Divert your attention/interest to new subjects and concepts....Google and research any topic and associated links that pique your interest...this will broaden your knowledge base and quench loops.
Exercise
Get outside and explore your suburb, be it on foot or cycling, even if only to go to the local shops.
Raising your heart rate and physical output has obvious benefits.
Further advantages are seeing and experiencing a different environment.
All of the above will aid in kicking sticky componds out of your 'grey matter'.
I could add a whole lot more, but that is ample to consider for now.
You have a future, be it good or bad, the choice is yours.
Sincerely, Dan.
It's always nice to see amateur psychiatry, amateur nutrition, and amateur medicine being practiced. The spread of confidently-stated ignorance helps the achievement of Darwin Awards.
If someone needs professional help, go see a professional.
If someone needs professional help, go see a professional.
What's Wrong with Amateur level then? Seems like every So called Professional it's been the same Ordeal no offense...Nutrition/Diet/Supplement's in Check, Exercise fairly in Check, could be better, Difficult time Finding that Energy/Stamina I once had again. Appreciate the responses though, that's all key points/concern's. While yes, I do convey some blatant ignorance with my language and all, I know. Numerous nuance's/depth of meanings/emotion's. That is My problem though I notice, I feel like I really need reassurance all the time/emotional/unstable/picky/perfectionist Virgo that I am its awful. I need to do this myself/for myself. Not for anyone else...Why do I think like this? Doesn't make any sense..
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Indeed. Most of these so-called professionals are trained to simply get people hooked on something that some corporation can profit from. True help comes from those who actually care. I think it is inappropriate to discourage people who care.
Thus, time to call in superstition and remote handwaving from people with zero expertise but lots of confidence. Nice.
Huh?
Show me an example of either of these, please. The fact that you say this only displays your tendency towards assumption and judgmental-ism.
All I have seen are genuine responses from people who care enough to reply to AF's obvious cry for help.
It would better better to ignore him completely, I suppose. Reinforce his sense of isolation.
If the discussion makes you uncomfortable, don't try to dismiss it by passing it off to "the experts". Simply avoid commenting.
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It may not be expertise or experience, but I can confidently advise that the first step is to stop staying wired for 12 days. The outcome can never be good.
Best wishes to you AF88.
Best wishes to you AF88.
No, the problem many people like AudioFreek have is that they feel isolated and need someone to talk too, and I believe any attention helps. I have seen how bad theses sort of feelings can get in (mainly) young men and the devastating effect it can have on families; first hand, so I would hope a bit of listening and considerations however small will help.
Again, I do not see any examples of psychopharmacology (or superstition, or hand-waving) in the previous posts.
Can you provide any examples?
If not, let's stop arguing about AF's course of treatment, whatever that entails. I am sure that is the last thing he needs right now.
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No its not just feeling isolated, I am isolated in every sense/meaning of the word. Alone/isolated/withdrawn haven't done anything with my Life or even tried/or even have the means to do so in like 3 years because of feeling so mentally ill/lost. And No its not really attention like or any of that...it's just me and how I am anymore, I don't know...I'm not right..fighting it and trying to deal with..People in general Scare me half to Death anymore, I have phobia's/anxieties/delusion's of just ridiculous irrational things.. so much irrational/negative/phobia's even social phobia's all the emotional/personality instabilities/visual/auditory hallucination's ...It feels like I'm really losing it pretty much. I really question what the hell am I doing? What motivation/Goal's is there to keep me going? Where is the Will to Live/positivity/outgoing all that, I use to have? For now it's damn gone is what it is.
And I wonder why it's like I'm on the verge of Severe Total Mental Breakdown's/instability...Turned me into this horrible character, get set off/upset easily over stupid minor things anymore, it's ridiculous, I cannot sleep worth a damn anymore/relax you know...always feel on edge/expecting the worse scenario of damn anything that could happen, its madness. Sometimes I feel like I need locked up in the in Asylum...
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I understand. Feeling isolated is often the result of being isolated. The logic of this is lost on many people.
Max's point on peer group is important. Perhaps there is a support group in your area of people who you can connect with who will truly be able to relate. That doesn't work for everyone, but may be worth a try. It could end the isolation.
I spent some time being emotionally isolated. It was my own fault, but I discovered after some time how to be comfortable in solitude. I now find myself yearning for long periods of solitude and isolation. I suspect it is because when I am alone, I loath myself less. I figure this is because I can much more readily banish my ego when I am alone. When I am with others, my ego often gets in the way, and I loath my ego.
It sounds to me like your ego is active all the time, especially when you are alone, and its victim is you. Just realize that your ego is not you. Knowing this and putting it into practice results an incredibly powerful paradigm shift. If you want stability, the best way is to find a way to take the control away from your ego. Mr. Tolle can help you do that.
What you describe sounds like horror, and I am sure it feels like that. However, the fact that you are relating these experiences in such a clear way means that there is a part of you that has remained objective and rational through all of it. You've got that on your side.
Regarding the meaning of your life; if you can, try to dedicate yourself to service of others. Find something that you can do, and enjoy, that primarily benefits others. This is one of the most emotionally and spiritually healthy things you can do. At the end of each day, regardless of how bad things get, a sense of being useful, helpful, of being "a good person" can be extremely powerful.
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No, God no..I don't try to have some inflated Ego/Narcissistic traits, How can have that? when I can't breakdown/understand my own Damn self/half the time. If anything make me want to think about others much more so. God willing anything But myself etc.. That solitude bother's me and my overactive mind it always did. feels like it eats me alive. It's not the same/or healthy with me like vs actually when I use to feel more comfortable socially/connection's with others etc. It's very Complex, it's beyond my understanding most of the time. A lot like the Love and Hate interaction and something in between and how similar/ironic they can be. I fully understand many do not have a Problem with Long periods of isolation/Solitude...I use to think I could handle it too...Now I'm questioning that and maybe I was Wrong. The Longer I go feels like I'm yeah like I mentioned being ate alive with just depersonalization/downing Empathy even more etc.
So many what ifs/What not's/ expectation's/subjectivity/opinionated, to do with all of it, then yeah ends right back into just plain speculation I'm lost and I don't know/indecisive characteristic's
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In these cases Professionals are like drugs: You need to find the one that works for YOU!
Professionals are only human and as such they will follow and push their own agenda.
This (hopefully) is without malice but it does depend on their beliefs and which Professor they studied under etc.
In a generally ill-defined area like psychology the wrong professional can have a devastating effect while the right one will be a godsend.
By all means see a professional but do get a second, third and fourth opinion if at all possible. Pick the one that makes the most sense to you because if you don't believe that someones proposed course of action is any good it probably won't be.
That's my take on things anyway and Audiofreak hang in there, don't give up.
Professionals are only human and as such they will follow and push their own agenda.
This (hopefully) is without malice but it does depend on their beliefs and which Professor they studied under etc.
In a generally ill-defined area like psychology the wrong professional can have a devastating effect while the right one will be a godsend.
By all means see a professional but do get a second, third and fourth opinion if at all possible. Pick the one that makes the most sense to you because if you don't believe that someones proposed course of action is any good it probably won't be.
That's my take on things anyway and Audiofreak hang in there, don't give up.
I have a lot of the same problems sometimes, and even find it difficult occasionally to participate in some of the discussions on the forum. I take things way too personally, my fuse is about 2 millimeters long, occasionally have delusions of persecution, paranoia and self deprecation, even going so far as to sometimes forcibly appear less knowledgeable than I am, out of fear of argument.
I think some folks are just made to be emotional wrecks sometimes, and we just have to cope with the tools we have. It took the birth of my son last year to finally stop referring to my speakers as "my children", and sometimes being brought to tears just thinking that my only legacy in life would be a pile of half finished, marginally performing speaker cabinets and a box of re-re-re-re-re-used crossover components and 20 year old drivers.
I've often thought I'd do better living in an area where there are audio gatherings and like minded people to chill with..which might be a helpful thing for you, as well.
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