My wife is very understanding of this and other hobbies. Periodically she asks "How many oscilloscopes do you have now?". The number always creeps up. She being a molecular biologist takes this in stride as the academy is filled with such nut-cases as myself.
But this story relates to #3 son who was moved from the West Coast to the North Coast (yes, the sun will come out in April). She is somewhat less accepting of our mutual devotion.
In their new house, he arranges the living room furniture (in contravention to the recommendation of the interior decorator) for an ideal listening position in their family room. (The prior design had two couches facing each other with no room for the JBL 300's.) Another silent wifely commandment is that "There shalt not have any false cables lying on the living room floor before me". He goes on a client visit to Canada for two days and finds that the decorator's instructions have been effected.
What is grandpa to do?
But this story relates to #3 son who was moved from the West Coast to the North Coast (yes, the sun will come out in April). She is somewhat less accepting of our mutual devotion.
In their new house, he arranges the living room furniture (in contravention to the recommendation of the interior decorator) for an ideal listening position in their family room. (The prior design had two couches facing each other with no room for the JBL 300's.) Another silent wifely commandment is that "There shalt not have any false cables lying on the living room floor before me". He goes on a client visit to Canada for two days and finds that the decorator's instructions have been effected.
What is grandpa to do?
I have been married to a Marriage Family Therapist for many years and haven been to more than several Therapist training seminars. There is a lot to going along to get along or the unresolvable differences turn into unreconcilable differences.
I some times I invite my wife into my my listening room to enjoy some old tunes.
Unless you want #3 moving back in with you stay out of it.
JBL 300… if you mean those, going wireless can’t harm. But if you mean these ones, then it is worth investing in a solution. Eg Nordost-like speaker cables under the carpet, a tidy installation of the electronics etc.
My family does not share my audio passion but they are happy about the good sound when they watch TV. Also, I am happy to compromise in other areas of family life and make sure that everyone is aware of these gives and takes.
My family does not share my audio passion but they are happy about the good sound when they watch TV. Also, I am happy to compromise in other areas of family life and make sure that everyone is aware of these gives and takes.
I spent years removing plant pots and other detritus from the tops of the speakers... Chairs were on castors so I could move them out of the way of the speakers without risking a hernia. We had a relatively light coloured carpet and white speaker cables blended well and I also ran them round the skirting which meant adding 2.5m to each channel, but it brought peace. LPs were in an alcove with amps + TT . It meant longer speaker cable runs, but kept it largely away from the eyeline.
XRK is offering BT wireless speakers that might be worth investigating...
I don't think there is a zero-cost solution, but maybe a high-cost workaround, with a wife.
Regardless of whether she is still in love or already "normally" angry with her husband.
However, I would secretly turn to another interior designer and ask him to find a furniture arrangement that could satisfy both spouses.
Hoping that he finds such a configuration, I would then turn to a trusted jewelry store to try to "buy" the new arrangement that would make everyone happy.
P. S.: To avoid brickwork (at least where I come from the houses are almost all brick) I would be inclined to place the stereo system and speakers on the same side to reduce the impact of the cables on the floor or in any case to reduce the efforts required for their "disappearance" from view.
Edit to add a question: since English is not my 1st language, I did not understand why you first talked about a #3 son, and then about grandpa (?).
Regardless of whether she is still in love or already "normally" angry with her husband.
However, I would secretly turn to another interior designer and ask him to find a furniture arrangement that could satisfy both spouses.
Hoping that he finds such a configuration, I would then turn to a trusted jewelry store to try to "buy" the new arrangement that would make everyone happy.
P. S.: To avoid brickwork (at least where I come from the houses are almost all brick) I would be inclined to place the stereo system and speakers on the same side to reduce the impact of the cables on the floor or in any case to reduce the efforts required for their "disappearance" from view.
Edit to add a question: since English is not my 1st language, I did not understand why you first talked about a #3 son, and then about grandpa (?).
Wife “acceptance” factor? Honey, these speakers were here before you were. Accept it.
They have now been here 20 years (and her for 16 now). They did get painted about a year after we were married. She actually likes the way they sound. Gosh, I’ve been using the same pair of living room speakers that long. Doesn’t seem possible.
ALL of the PA equipment, save a couple of nice mixing consoles which I store upstairs in climate control, away from rodents, has been relegated to the other building. Labhorns in the living room was a bridge too far, and now those aren’t even the big ones.
They have now been here 20 years (and her for 16 now). They did get painted about a year after we were married. She actually likes the way they sound. Gosh, I’ve been using the same pair of living room speakers that long. Doesn’t seem possible.
ALL of the PA equipment, save a couple of nice mixing consoles which I store upstairs in climate control, away from rodents, has been relegated to the other building. Labhorns in the living room was a bridge too far, and now those aren’t even the big ones.
The solution that I like is a separate property agreement, she owns her house and he owns his.
She has her input and he has his, the decisions are much smoother. "Spend your money how you like dear." Choose the art that you like to hang on your wall.
This arrangement slows down the disagreements and opens the dialog.
My wife asked for help picking speakers to put along side her flat screen TV.
Thanks DT
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My wife "has a thing" with interconnects & speaker wires...?? When my pre-amp "took a dump", I just wound up deleting multiple inputs & sourced all on the computer...so my Carver is wired directly from the laptop....no tone controls, balance or anything. This trimming and cleverly fashioned fabrics made for outta sight, outta mind results.
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already "normally" angry with her husband.
Spoken like someone that knows from experience.
This seems the natural evolution of a marriage. You marry a woman that you cherish and respect, and she turns into more of a mother than your mother was. I mean, my mother gave me more leeway when I was ten. I found that the short leash sapped all my ambition, creativity, and manhood and made me into a person that I didn't like at all.
Why? Why do they do this? Take a great guy and break him down into mush?
Einstein:
Len Deighton:
Subtly different, but surprisingly true. I've heard women talking about their men as if they're a house renovation project, confidently setting out the changes they'll make to transform him into the man they really wanted to marry. Doomed IMO. There's also this film if you want to be quietly unsettled...
Len Deighton:
Subtly different, but surprisingly true. I've heard women talking about their men as if they're a house renovation project, confidently setting out the changes they'll make to transform him into the man they really wanted to marry. Doomed IMO. There's also this film if you want to be quietly unsettled...