with that cold beer.
Seps w kid is not about da stuf. Its about putting the kiddos in the first room. Once you get over it, you will see the sunshine. Sun is the kiddos, having loving caring parents not fighting. Worth separating for? O yes. Can your kid have a decent life? Double. Religiously... Well, I leave it to the religious.
Wife's parents "stayed together", "for the kids", rather than seperating and either working it our or parting ways. Really screwed things up, the kids I mean. They later sperated, work things out, and then began to enjoy each other again. Should have done it long time ago, and they wouldn't have screwed up the kids so much.
Yap agree. I love loving pairs but dont freaking haste itA. Judging love between same sex. Christian love went to hell. Love is always good.
Until appointed, I am judge over no one. There is no reason to attack the one in defending the other, otherwise you find yourself in the same position you are attacking.
If things have gone that far, a quick sharp split works better for all involved. Children are far more forgiving than they are given credit for and it has to better for them to be sure of where they stand rather than the never ceasing worry of parents at war.
Worse of all are parents who use children as weapons against their existing/ex marital partner.
Worse of all are parents who use children as weapons against their existing/ex marital partner.
I dont think you felt apponted Buzz, sorry if you did anyways. My reasoning was on others behalf, and surely more about the things that matters.
From my point of view, separated with a kid living where I do in Sweden everybody could think that life is normal if you lived in the most liberal country in the world, according to those things.
My background is that I had a kiddo with a nice girl (still is) that, what showed later, had low chances of giving our kid a stable raise. Those things came clear a year or half or so after birth. She got unstable even under pregnancy and it got worce. I wont get in to it more but I'm sure you know about it.
So, it ended up with me and a new born child and a for the moment unstable mother. We agreed on separating.
Then came the strange: as I had been the one tending the baby mostly all nights, changing diapers, feeding, nurcing the mom to, I also got the stupid questions at the social office like: How would you cope with nurcing a baby alone? What would you do in this and that situation...?
It made little difference to them that I told them that I had already done that. They were asking questions from their books, probably 60 years old.
Im now glad to tell that the mom is now 80-90% good, still in theraphy but a good mother. She has always been, just not able to all the time. Elvis is the best kid. We are not a family in the right name but we are friends and we love eachother.
From my point of view, separated with a kid living where I do in Sweden everybody could think that life is normal if you lived in the most liberal country in the world, according to those things.
My background is that I had a kiddo with a nice girl (still is) that, what showed later, had low chances of giving our kid a stable raise. Those things came clear a year or half or so after birth. She got unstable even under pregnancy and it got worce. I wont get in to it more but I'm sure you know about it.
So, it ended up with me and a new born child and a for the moment unstable mother. We agreed on separating.
Then came the strange: as I had been the one tending the baby mostly all nights, changing diapers, feeding, nurcing the mom to, I also got the stupid questions at the social office like: How would you cope with nurcing a baby alone? What would you do in this and that situation...?
It made little difference to them that I told them that I had already done that. They were asking questions from their books, probably 60 years old.
Im now glad to tell that the mom is now 80-90% good, still in theraphy but a good mother. She has always been, just not able to all the time. Elvis is the best kid. We are not a family in the right name but we are friends and we love eachother.
Stajo,
That is a beautiful family picture, with all the pain, difficulty and love it took to make it happen. There was n malice or defense in my statement, and I would bet on most occasions I would be standing beside you in the midst of an argument, not across from you. This is why I love the forum and the internet. People.
That is a beautiful family picture, with all the pain, difficulty and love it took to make it happen. There was n malice or defense in my statement, and I would bet on most occasions I would be standing beside you in the midst of an argument, not across from you. This is why I love the forum and the internet. People.
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my better half ( and muuuuuuch more clever , too ) is working as Psy ( and CEO) in local social care office ;
boy ....... we know all the stories ....... and that's the reason that we care (to us 3 ) even more .......
my better half ( and muuuuuuch more clever , too ) is working as Psy ( and CEO) in local social care office ;
boy ....... we know all the stories ....... and that's the reason that we care (to us 3 ) even more .......
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forum and internet and ppl are overrated
arguing is everything !!
Juz az long az we all get to whack you on da head....
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Well ZM, as well as I agree with you, I was still very thankful about Buzz's words. Nice words is also arguing, in a way...
Staffan,
for a half-full or half-empty evaluation, try marrying someone who went for a bachelors at an acting school, and in her late 30's turned out this :
Antisocial personality disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
(with kid)
for a half-full or half-empty evaluation, try marrying someone who went for a bachelors at an acting school, and in her late 30's turned out this :
Antisocial personality disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
(with kid)
Jacco, maybe not but thing is:
I'm not normal at all and I have never pretended to be. In fact I'm not to concerned about normal people. If there were any normal people they would surely bore me. I love people.
Btw. I'm ripping a movie called "On the road". Anybody knows anything about it. I hear that its based on a novel...
I'm not normal at all and I have never pretended to be. In fact I'm not to concerned about normal people. If there were any normal people they would surely bore me. I love people.
Btw. I'm ripping a movie called "On the road". Anybody knows anything about it. I hear that its based on a novel...
Maybe easier for you to read/understand : I was married to that one.
(and trust me, you have zero idea what that means in reality)
(and trust me, you have zero idea what that means in reality)
Ummmmmm - do you mean that there are other types??? 😀😀😀
Reminds me of my 30 years of bachelorhood. Well - actually it takes me back to my 1st love the my 3rd year of elementary school. Then high-school. Then my 1st wife....... then about 5 years of therapy...... 😀😀😀