Help dealing with a diyAudio member

[tomchr]

When people are retired it's hard to distinguish bad behaviour from just being down in the dumps and unable to get going. A lot of people get stuck and lose their motivation, putting things off forever. They don't like to face up to the fact that this is happening in reality and may even resent being badgered constantly for action and results.

Many people who aren't retired feel that way too. Major depressive disorder can have that effect. As can long COVID apparently. Burnout can be a serious motivation killer.

Tom

 

[myleftear]

Writing from the other side of the globe—maybe there’s someone living nearby @Rick PA Stadel who would be willing to get the preamp?

 

[Logon]

+1

Just thought the same thing.

 

[huggygood]

do you remember the Salem witch hunt?
I think it's best to let them sort it out.
And in the best case scenario, if someone is nearby and can/wants to pick up the device, everyone will be happy.

 

[JMFahey]

I got a lot of advice, but found it hard making advancements.

Maybe/probably/most probably your helper found that out too.
Surprised?
I wouldn´t.

a member from that thread, off thread who was very kind and knowledgeable.

So we are not dealing with a monster here.

I started to loose steam.

Would you accept he might have lost steam too?

Thinking about it now, I wondered why under those difficult circumstances he agree to have a look at it?

Maybe you pestered him enough to accept?

Maybe he thought it was a repairable mess? ... until he actually saw it on the flesh?

In his last response
He complained about me demanding every spare minute of his free time.

Maybe you were hitting him with a hailstorm of mails?

We have only your side of "dialog".

Feb 4th I ask for my pre back. I offered to pay for the shipping. He said ok to that, but since then he's ignored most of my messages.
It's been been more than 4 months since I've asked for him to send my preamp back.
This obviously was a mistake. I'd like my preamp back. What can I do here guys?
Any advice? I really want my preamp back!

Since you dealt with him outside of DIY Audio, it´s a private deal, between you 2.

You can´t try to drag DIYAudio or its members into it.

Post the name of this member. The moderators will have a big problem with such behavior,
and can take measures to encourage a proper resolution.

See above: not a DIYAudio or members problem.

Post his name here, and also ask the moderators to help. If his every post is followed by one or
several members asking where your preamp is, or if he is no longer allowed to post until the matter
is resolved, he may finally get around to returning it to you.

LOVE to see that old American Tradition, Mob Lynching, is alive and well.
WHY do you encourage pressure methods against a Forum Member?
Do you have any PROOF things happened as described?
Even if, WHO gave you the power to do that?

Email an inquiry to the local police and copy him on it.

See above about Mob mentality.
Remember denouncing people to Police used to be a popular pastime in Germany, Russia, China and North Korea at different times .... maybe there´s some fun in it??

It probably helps to monitor this member here and his recent activities so we know he's still alive and to pester him

directdriver
Good!!! The more the merrier!!!! Mobs get better the larger they become!!!!!

FWIW I am starting to suspect DIYAudio should go all the way and plain delete this thread:

1) useless

2) it started to bring out some dark aspects of a couple members.

3) it´s starting to approach libel levels ... if it didn´t already get there.

Keeping it visible certainly helps that.

Plain closing it for new answers is not enough, if anybody in the future can read it.

Mind you, not taking sides or prejudging, not enpugh data to begin with but way more important: NONE OF MY BUSINESS.

jm2c

 

[Rick PA Stadel]

I hate to make promises, since I made none originally and it still produced this result. But how about this:

The very next day after my wife has a working toilet to use, I will set about re-packing the unit EXACTly as it came to me. Plus, I will happily eat the shipping charges, and publish the tracking numbers herein (somewhere) so that everyone can participate.

In the meantime, I do NOT expect to write the US $21,467 check, or spend the 45 to 50 hours cleaning (mouse dooky) and hauling crap (actual crap in many cases) out of the basement, so that that plumber can saw open the basement floor and earn their due.

gregas, you are not the only -- or most important to me -- person I have grievously disappointed in recent years. Granted it doesn't count for much, but I Am Sorry.

Mr Fahey, your time and effort are greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Regards

 

[Pano]

The moderation team take a dim view of private business between individuals dragged out into public on the forums. Avoid it.

 

[gregas]

I was looking for help dealing with my problem. Simply asking for advice! This post seems to have worked!
Thank you all for those who replied
Rick. I just want my pre back. Please ship me back my pre! I will gladly pay for shipping.

 

[Pano]

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