metal v plastic spools- isnt plastic thicker?

Most RTR tape is supplied on plastic reels, so unless you have lots of money to burn on metal replacement reels, I'd say stick with the plastic reels unless you have one that is visibly warped. And even then, I'd be tempted to replace it with another plastic reel. I use a metal reel for the take-up reel, but of course that gets used over and over.

The "alignment" of the tape threading through the heads, or its neatness on spooling on a reel, should be a function of the tape guides on the machine, not the reel itself.

I have an Akai GX-230D, still running since 1978!
 
Most manufactures made shims that could be placed on the table to raise the reel if needed. The tape alignment is done by the guides, not by the height of the reel, if you look at the reels they are wider than tape anyways, so they are not going to be much help there.