Hi, Tom,
Thanks for the links.
Especially that, above.
It was a direct hit.
I remember when was my mother died.
You know, with words of Laurie Anderson:
"When my father died, it was like a whole library had burned down."
Well, her library is around me.
I will never forget that day, when my son came home from school, and I must tell him the sad news.
My mother was only 68, when she died.
May be if she lives some years further, my son also lives now.
May be.
Gyuri
You are welcome. David Gates wrote that song about his Dad, after his Dad's death.
I am so sorry about your losses. I have experienced something similar and I understand that it can be "difficult beyond words". I do hope that you will not torture yourself, too much. I actually did the same thing for a while and it somehow seemed helpful. But the most-helpful idea is to always remember that they would want you to try to be happy, and to thrive.
Try these, too:
Harry Nilsson: "Without You"
Harry Nilsson - Without You 1972 (HD) - YouTube
Bread: "Lost Without Your Love"
David Gates & Bread - Lost Without Your Love [HQ] - YouTube
Bread: "Look What You've Done"
Bread - Look What You've Done [w/ lyrics] - YouTube
But please try to always remember that they would want you to try to be happy, and they would also be upset to know that they were responsible for damaging your life, or were the cause of endless debilitating grieving.
(If you are not still wallowing in the depths of the sadness that we both know so well, then I will mostly stop worrying about you, and you can mostly disregard what I have written here, and we can hope that maybe someday it will help someone else.)
Grieving is good and necessary, for a while. But too much, or for too long, is not good. At some point, it is time to let go of any regrets and guilt that are prolonging the sadness and grief. They are not here any more, to forgive you. But you have to believe that if they were, or if they could, they would. And you also have to forgive yourself... and them.
Your great love for them is obvious but it will not die if you stop cultivating the sadness. And you will not be letting go of their memories. You will be honoring them in a better way, instead. And eventually, your memories of them will mostly be sources of happiness rather than sadness.
Maybe it's time to help re-balance the universe, with some happiness to offset the weight of the sadness. If you can't be happy, yet, then perhaps you could make others happier, somehow, instead. Something good needs to come out of all of the bad that has happened. The hole needs to be filled. You just need to find something to use to fill it, and a shovel.
I am so sorry about your losses. I have experienced something similar and I understand that it can be "difficult beyond words". I do hope that you will not torture yourself, too much. I actually did the same thing for a while and it somehow seemed helpful. But the most-helpful idea is to always remember that they would want you to try to be happy, and to thrive.
Try these, too:
Harry Nilsson: "Without You"
Harry Nilsson - Without You 1972 (HD) - YouTube
Bread: "Lost Without Your Love"
David Gates & Bread - Lost Without Your Love [HQ] - YouTube
Bread: "Look What You've Done"
Bread - Look What You've Done [w/ lyrics] - YouTube
But please try to always remember that they would want you to try to be happy, and they would also be upset to know that they were responsible for damaging your life, or were the cause of endless debilitating grieving.
(If you are not still wallowing in the depths of the sadness that we both know so well, then I will mostly stop worrying about you, and you can mostly disregard what I have written here, and we can hope that maybe someday it will help someone else.)
Grieving is good and necessary, for a while. But too much, or for too long, is not good. At some point, it is time to let go of any regrets and guilt that are prolonging the sadness and grief. They are not here any more, to forgive you. But you have to believe that if they were, or if they could, they would. And you also have to forgive yourself... and them.
Your great love for them is obvious but it will not die if you stop cultivating the sadness. And you will not be letting go of their memories. You will be honoring them in a better way, instead. And eventually, your memories of them will mostly be sources of happiness rather than sadness.
Maybe it's time to help re-balance the universe, with some happiness to offset the weight of the sadness. If you can't be happy, yet, then perhaps you could make others happier, somehow, instead. Something good needs to come out of all of the bad that has happened. The hole needs to be filled. You just need to find something to use to fill it, and a shovel.
It is extremely good. That's for sure. I listened to "Incomudro - Hymn to the Atman" and "Song for America", from it, last night. But Leftoverture was genius, too. And Masque has at least two really-great songs. I have had all of their albums, since each one was released (yes, I'm getting old), and have always gone back to those three, even after almost 40 years.
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Hi Tom,
Thank you for your kind words.
And for the great links also.
You know, it is my accomplishment that I'm alive at all.
And I'm trying to find things what I enjoy.
It's not so easy, not only because of my son, but the whole world seems to me, going to something wrong direction.
Especially in my miserable country where I must live and die.
(Somewhere in the far future, I hope so.)
Kind regards,
Gyuri
Thank you for your kind words.
And for the great links also.
You know, it is my accomplishment that I'm alive at all.
And I'm trying to find things what I enjoy.
It's not so easy, not only because of my son, but the whole world seems to me, going to something wrong direction.
Especially in my miserable country where I must live and die.
(Somewhere in the far future, I hope so.)
Kind regards,
Gyuri
Recently introduced to Mark Kozelek. Great singer/songwriter. Nice concert on YouTube.
Mark Kozelek - Full Concert - Sommerfesten 2010 - YouTube
Mark Kozelek - Full Concert - Sommerfesten 2010 - YouTube
. Maybe I do need that power conditioner after all .
(A collection of 70s songs this radio station played in the 70s when they wre STILL music!)
