I find myself getting a little frustrated at times with people who ask for advice.
On a couple of occasions people have rubbished my advice becasue they had already decided it was something else, only to find out later i was quite right.
On a couple of occasions I have almost burst into an abusive reply but I value my membership of DIYAUDIO a bit more than that so refrain and unsubscribe from the thread.
On forums we cant see people and so dont always appreciate someones experience. I have 32 years experience of software and hardware design but do appreciate I will always be learning. It does hurt a little to get rubbished when I have put some effort into replying to someones disaster.
On a couple of occasions people have rubbished my advice becasue they had already decided it was something else, only to find out later i was quite right.
On a couple of occasions I have almost burst into an abusive reply but I value my membership of DIYAUDIO a bit more than that so refrain and unsubscribe from the thread.
On forums we cant see people and so dont always appreciate someones experience. I have 32 years experience of software and hardware design but do appreciate I will always be learning. It does hurt a little to get rubbished when I have put some effort into replying to someones disaster.
Well what do you suggest to do about it?
Absolutely nothing.
I usually charge £3000 a month for my advice and work so if its not accepted for free I dont lose out financially.
It just seemed a little sad.
Well,
I charge $2000 per day for my time and get it. I pretty much will answer a decent question once. Sometimes they follow the advice and are surprised to see it works!
Then there are those who prattle on and don't understand even my acerbic answers.
But of course if you had any suggestion on what to do I would have ignored it!
I charge $2000 per day for my time and get it. I pretty much will answer a decent question once. Sometimes they follow the advice and are surprised to see it works!
Then there are those who prattle on and don't understand even my acerbic answers.
But of course if you had any suggestion on what to do I would have ignored it!
The ego is a monster in some, especially where deeply held belief comes into play i.e. "my mentor told me X and you say that's wrong... you're wrong." as defense mechanisms kick in. Defense mechanisms will also protect the ego from accepting something is beyond their capabilities. As I've been teaching for a long time, it is easy to spot the person who is about to drop out to protect their ego, it's a waste really.
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Never mind, Nigel, cheer up.
Tell it like you see it with all the force at your command, apologise if it turns out you were wrong, give as good as you get, remember that moderated forums make it impossible to reply to an insult to the intelligence with the blunt insult it deserves and when all is said and done, don't become too attached to an alias. Remember (or look up if you don't know about it) RocketScientist's (nwavguy) treatment at Head-fi.
Ohhh... nobody said it was going to be fair, nil illegitimus carborundum.
Tell it like you see it with all the force at your command, apologise if it turns out you were wrong, give as good as you get, remember that moderated forums make it impossible to reply to an insult to the intelligence with the blunt insult it deserves and when all is said and done, don't become too attached to an alias. Remember (or look up if you don't know about it) RocketScientist's (nwavguy) treatment at Head-fi.
Ohhh... nobody said it was going to be fair, nil illegitimus carborundum.
I'm sure. they don'tI could write more, but I'm not sure anyone wants to hear it.
jn..
I've pulled some personal attacks by members who ought to know better.
Advice is much easier to give than to receive. That isn't news.
I could write more, but I'm not sure anyone wants to hear it.
I value sofaspud's contribution
I know, I know. I expect that at some point I will stop helping beginners but I must be getting something out of it for now. Is it the spirt of DIY? Is it an ego boost? Do I stand to learn somethig myself. Hmmmmm - improving my typitn.
Explaining something to a beginner can help cement the idea in your own brain, and also serves to expose flaws or gaps in your understanding. My problem is that I am not always sure who is a beginner, so I sometimes talk my way into trouble. Of course for most of us there are particular topics where we are beginners even when we are experts in other areas.
exactly DF96, often when trying to explain something to someone I find that I get a better understanding of it myself (sometimes because before I put fingers to keyboard, I actually check that I'm in fact correct and do some more research to make sure what I think is right is actually right).
My problem is I forget the stuff I have learnt (so in a lot of respects I'm a perpetual beginner) Sometimes I see posts I've written and think I didn't know that I knew that The old story, if you don't use it you lose it...
Tony.
My problem is I forget the stuff I have learnt (so in a lot of respects I'm a perpetual beginner)
Sometimes I see posts I've written and think I didn't know that I knew that The old story, if you don't use it you lose it... Tony.
Try selling car audio: 90% of your customers are 17-25yr old males who'd rather believe their retarded peers then someone who is genuinely trying to help them. I've lost track of the times I've been completely ignored as said teens purchase a pair of 6x9s, sub woofer and entry level tuner while leaving their front speakers stock...I learnt long ago you can only help those who want to be helped.
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