Women

[mikje]

Originally Posted by Cal Weldon

It's simple:

1. Her: SWMBO
2. You: King of your castle, when it suits her.

If you remember those two, all else will fall nicely into place. If you buck the trend, you will end up on a forum somewhere discussing the topic.

I try my best to always make her feel special without losing my own identity.

My name is Cal and I'm addicted to my wife.

Well put Cal. I've been happily married for more than 31 years... to the same woman. (Cliche coming...)We're best friends and look forward to being with each other, but we really have our differences. But differences that make us like a jigsaw puzzle; differences that make us fit well together. We're respectful of our differences.
Each day we try to out-please each other. And we communicate, honestly. I am thankful each day for the blessing of a wife I have. And I and "addicted to my wife!"
Mike

[Pocoyo]

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[Cal Weldon]

Originally Posted by mikje

Each day we try to out-please each other.

A man of much wisdom. Many could learn from a statement so simple. Thank you for sharing it.

A wise man once said, a relationship is not 50/50...

...it's 100/100

[audi0]

Originally Posted by mikje

Well put Cal. I've been happily married for more than 31 years... to the same woman. (Cliche coming...)We're best friends and look forward to being with each other, but we really have our differences. But differences that make us like a jigsaw puzzle; differences that make us fit well together. We're respectful of our differences.
Each day we try to out-please each other. And we communicate, honestly. I am thankful each day for the blessing of a wife I have. And I and "addicted to my wife!"
Mike

Spoken from the heart Mike +1

[mirlo]

Originally Posted by Gordy

OK, here's the serious bit...

When a man presents you with a statement that contains an issue their primary concern is to solve the issue. So, you talk with him and then offer him a solution. This is our male default way of communicating. So by default we communicate with females in the same way.

The problem is that they think differently, and their primary concern is not to solve the issue. Indeed their primary concern is to be heard, be understood, and to gain empathy. So that is what you should try and do: listen to her, try and understand her, try and find a way to empathise with her.

If, later, you can suggest a solution to the issue that she has then that is good, but A) do not do it immediately (i.e. listen, understand, empathise first), and B) offer it as a suggestion (i.e. "you may wish to consider..." and not "the answer is...")

This is something I learned after much frustration. My gf would actually get offended if I tried to help her solve her problems first. She would think I was telling her she was doing things wrong / stupid / etc. I got tired of that and so I stopped trying: Now I just listen, commiserate, agree, SO much easier. Usually I don't get around to the actual problem solving part any more.

[Algar_emi]

Just my two cents of wisdom An happy man (married) is one that can realized he got everything at home to be happy and that any other women would be just different, not better.

Works only if you lived with her for a few years before marriage and kids, and tested the relationship

Been with my wife for 28 years, and married happily for 25 this year.

Now really, my recipe for success is probably that she's very understanding

[ThorstenL]

Guys,

Originally Posted by Cal Weldon

Man, you guys should get together and write a book.

Actually, someone made a video...

I think you all need Brad Alex:

YouTube - The Girlfriend Trainer

Do not watch this if you suffer from being excessively politically correct, are easily offended or are a female. If you watch anyway, make sure you watch to the end.

Ciao T

[Gordy]

Originally Posted by Cal Weldon

…I'm addicted to my wife.

Originally Posted by mikje

Each day we try to out-please each other.

Awwww, what a lovely couple of lads you are.


Alternatively…

[aptquark]

LOL Gordy...

[woody]

Biohazard!