Women

[aptquark]

spoken like a true romantic!!

[EBM_dude]

The thing is, he's right!

[Gordy]

Originally Posted by EBM_dude

The thing is, he's right!

OK, here's the serious bit...

When a man presents you with a statement that contains an issue their primary concern is to solve the issue. So, you talk with him and then offer him a solution. This is our male default way of communicating. So by default we communicate with females in the same way.

The problem is that they think differently, and their primary concern is not to solve the issue. Indeed their primary concern is to be heard, be understood, and to gain empathy. So that is what you should try and do: listen to her, try and understand her, try and find a way to empathise with her.

If, later, you can suggest a solution to the issue that she has then that is good, but A) do not do it immediately (i.e. listen, understand, empathise first), and B) offer it as a suggestion (i.e. "you may wish to consider..." and not "the answer is...")

Remember that their way of thinking is completely different to your way of thinking. However; it should be a balanced situation, so they also need to recognise the differences and accomodate them. Therefore they too should make an effort to communicate with you on your terms so that it is not all 'give' from your side. Talk to her and tell her that you recognise the differences in communication, and that you find it interesting... and hence start a friendly conversation about the subject. In that conversation slowly let her know that she has to recognise the differences and that your way of communicating is equally valid, and that it is best for all if she responds to the different way of communicating in a reasonable and balanced way. Pick the moment for this conversation very carefully!!!

Good luck

[Cal Weldon]

Man, you guys should get together and write a book.

[Gordy]

I sat down to do that, but she called me a lazy bum and told me to go do the washing and ironing.

[Cal Weldon]

It's simple:

1. Her: SWMBO
2. You: King of your castle, when it suits her.

If you remember those two, all else will fall nicely into place. If you buck the trend, you will end up on a forum somewhere discussing the topic.

I try my best to always make her feel special without losing my own identity.

My name is Cal and I'm addicted to my wife.

[aptquark]

Originally Posted by Cal Weldon

It's simple:

1. Her: SWMBO
2. You: King of your castle, when it suits her.

If you remember those two, all else will fall nicely into place. If you buck the trend, you will end up on a forum somewhere discussing the topic.

I try my best to always make her feel special without losing my own identity.

My name is Cal and I'm addicted to my wife.

There's another name for "addicted to my wife"...if ya know what I mean.

[Cal Weldon]

Yes, I fondly remember those days. Back in time when 'score' had nothing to do with sports. Unfortunately those days are behind me.

Dammit, where'd the years go?

[T in AZ]

Originally Posted by Gordy

Solution 1.
Have sex again after 89 minutes !!!

John and Bill are talking about their wives and Bill says, “ Sometimes I just want to kill her!” John says, "If I was marred to your wife I would scrrew her to death." Well John leaves and a couple of months later he goes to visit his friend Bill. John sees Bill sitting in a wheel chair barely able to hold his head up. John says, “Bill what happened!” Bill looks up and points his withered finger at his wife, see her, John looks over at Bills wife is in the garden looking like a goddess. John says “Yah”. Bill smiles and says, “she doesn’t know it but she can only last a few more weeks.”

[aptquark]

Originally Posted by T in AZ

John and Bill are talking about their wives and Bill says, “ Sometimes I just want to kill her!” John says, "If I was marred to your wife I would scrrew her to death." Well John leaves and a couple of months later he goes to visit his friend Bill. John sees Bill sitting in a wheel chair barely able to hold his head up. John says, “Bill what happened!” Bill looks up and points his withered finger at his wife, see her, John looks over at Bills wife is in the garden looking like a goddess. John says “Yah”. Bill smiles and says, “she doesn’t know it but she can only last a few more weeks.”

I don't get it. I'm dense a little bit.