My thoughts. And nothing else.

[Pano]

Some spend their life waiting on tables

[Gyuri]

Nice thoughts, thank you
Yesterday was our twenty-fifth wedding anniversary.
Well, what was this quarter of a century?
There was good, was bad as well.
So just the usual.
Actually, I do not miss it, just one thing.
But he is missing a lot. My son.
He could not wait, but done.

[Gyuri]

Hey, dear my sweet elder brother Ferenc, remember, when Vágó Gabi pelted our windows with a stone at early dawn, let us go to walk with the dogs already now?

[popilin]

Hi Gyuri
I read your thread with tears in my eyes.
I know the suffering.

My Father died when I was seven.
I also lost a Sister.
My Mom, suffered polio as a child, now she has cancer, and we had to place her in a nursing home, because we can not take care of her properly.
I know the suffering.

My Dad, when he looked the little picture, said: "That's my Son"
It comforts me to think that from time to time, he looks at the little picture, and goes on saying the same.

It is my hope that your Son look at the little picture and say: "That's my Dad"

Sincerely
Juan

[Gyuri]

Hello Juan,

I say thank you for your kind words.
I read this sad news now:
Gabriel García Márquez's writing career ended by dementia | Books | The Observer

"Jaime García Márquez, who heads the Ibero-American New Journalism Foundation, founded by Gabo in 1994 in Cartagena, said it was regrettable that his brother was not in a condition to write the second part of his autobiography, Living to Tell the Tale.

"Unfortunately, I don't think that'll be possible, but I hope I'm wrong," he said."

What a pity.

[popilin]

Hi Gyuri
Not for me to give you advice, but the bad news is big business, try to avoid them.
Besides, who can know how it feels Gabriel Garcia Marquez?
Maybe he feels happy, and us who are sad for him...

I've noticed that you have a good sense of humor, I invite you to contribute something in my thread

Silly Questions and Answers

I know it's easy to say, but please, make an effort to get out of the hole.
You have a wife and daughter who need from you.
Being well is a debt you have with them.

Best regards
Juan

[Gyuri]

Originally Posted by popilin

Hi Gyuri
Not for me to give you advice, but the bad news is big business, try to avoid them.
Besides, who can know how it feels Gabriel Garcia Marquez?
Maybe he feels happy, and us who are sad for him...

I regret the readers, really. We will never know the sequel.
You know this is a bit like the fact that I do not tape-recorded the stories of my grandfather. Was an excellent storyteller, with great stories.
And this has gone, don't retraceable anymore.

Originally Posted by popilin

I've noticed that you have a good sense of humor, I invite you to contribute something in my thread

Silly Questions and Answers

I have found this earlier.

Originally Posted by popilin

I know it's easy to say, but please, make an effort to get out of the hole.
You have a wife and daughter who need from you.
Being well is a debt you have with them.

Best regards

Juan

This I know.
But it's a black hole, you know, and will not let to go.

Sincerely,

Gyuri

[gootee]

Originally Posted by Gyuri

Hello Juan,

I say thank you for your kind words.
I read this sad news now:
Gabriel García Márquez's writing career ended by dementia | Books | The Observer

"Jaime García Márquez, who heads the Ibero-American New Journalism Foundation, founded by Gabo in 1994 in Cartagena, said it was regrettable that his brother was not in a condition to write the second part of his autobiography, Living to Tell the Tale.

"Unfortunately, I don't think that'll be possible, but I hope I'm wrong," he said."

What a pity.

I have not read any of the other parts of this thread yet. But after reading the post above I have to pass along some information that might be critically important:

I hope that someone will realize that they should test him for NPH (Normal Pressure Hydrocephalis). NPH is treatable.

It is estimated that up to 5% of those who are thought to have Alzheimer's actually have NPH instead and could have been saved, and basically cured, but no one usually checks for the NPH. Such a tragedy!

My Dad had NPH. We thought that maybe he had both Alzheimer's AND Parkinson's. He had dementia, which was quite bad. But, also, his legs hurt, and within a few months he could only shuffle his feet along the floor, about six inches at a time, when walking.

He was about 78 years old when the symptoms suddenly became more apparent, over maybe a two-to-four-month period of time (although, thinking back, some minor dementia had been getting slowly worse for at least several years). At first, no one could even diagnose anything. Finally The Mayo Clinic did. Then, every doctor said that installing a shunt to relieve the brain pressure was too dangerous, at his age. Well, NPH will always kill you, too.

Finally we found a doctor, at St. John's Hospital (IIRC) in St. Louis, who said that all the other guys' information must have been ten years old because he installed those shunts every day and there would be no problem due to age.

Dad had the surgery and it was like a miracle had occurred! His mind returned basically COMPLETELY to normal, within one or two days, as did his walking, talking, and everything else! My Dad is still alive, now, at age 87.

He was a medical doctor, himself, but had to retire, at age 78, when the NPH suddenly caused the problems I mentioned. After he came home from the shunt surgery, I told him about what I had read, where it said that maybe 5% of Alzheimer's patients actually had NPH and could have been "cured", like he was, and I asked him to think about all of the patients he had had, in the last five or so years when he was still working, to see if he could remember any that had dementia, but maybe with a more-rapid-than-typical onset compared to Alzheimer's, and maybe with leg pain or walking problems, or something similar. Amazingly, he DID remember one person like that. He immediately notified their family and they eventually had the same surgery and they, too, were back to normal!

I hope that this motivates everyone who knows anyone with dementia or an Alzheimer's diagnosis to suggest that they be checked for NPH!

Warm regards,

Tom Gootee

[gootee]

For Gyuri, and for everyone else who is suffering from the difficult-beyond-words loss of someone close to them: I am somewhat ahead of some of you, on a similar path. My heart breaks for you. But I just want to give you one simple thought that might help your life get better, if you can hold onto this thought:

Try to keep remembering that the person you lost would want you to try to be happy, and to thrive.

That's it.

It's been over thirteen years and it took me about nine years, but now, finally, I believe that if my wife could know what my life is like, she would not have to feel devastated by guilt or sadness for ruining my life by dying, and might even be proud of what I am doing and how I live my life, and would be happy to see that I am "mostly OK". (But I sure hope she didn't know anything about those first few years!)

I hope that it doesn't take anyone else nearly that long. (There really isn't much point in that, anyway, although that can be very difficult to see, or act on, when you're still numb. But please try to realize that you don't have to "stay sad" in order to not feel like you're "letting go" of them, or in order to properly honor them, or even if, without realizing it, it's because you feel guilty about aspects of your relationship with them. Everyone does! Let it go!)

Live on. "If you're not growing, you're dying." And love, more than ever. You are what keeps their memory alive. In a way, you're living for two, now. So do a good job of it!

Your friend,

Tom

[Gyuri]

My colleague almost fell asleep on the motorway at night, while going back home from work. Fortunately, his son warned him.
Insanity what we do.